The songs are both describing what their gender thinks of the other gender. The male thinks of the female flirting with guys while her friends are covering for her. Chen as a female would know how to treat a guy because he knows that guys like to have their own time and listen to him also. Beyoncé thinks that the male is always wanting his own time and thinks he makes up the rules as he goes along with life. Beyoncé as a male would know how to treat a woman better than anyone else could because she knows girls like to be listened to and do feminine type of activities. The overall message is that the other gender doesn't know their own very well and both genders wish they were the opposite gender to treat themselves better.